New Year’s is Always an Exciting Time.
It’s a time ripe with hope and the overwhelming relief of starting anew. Most people enter January 1st with certain goals in mind. Kind of like the ultimate Monday (which, ironically, this New Years was), the first of the year can be seen as the perfect day to change our lives and chase our goals.
If you ask 100 different people their individual resolution, you’d get more than a handful of different answers. But, far and away the most common goal is almost always, “getting (back) into shape”. In fact, if you’re reading this, seeing how this happens to be a fitness(ish) website, I’d say you’re here to get in shape too.
Unless you’re here on accident.
In which case…
Stay awhile, yeah?
Wait.. Where’d you go?!
With New Year’s already a few days in the rear view, we are stumbling upon a very important stretch. While the vast majority of people begin the year with a big fitness goal in mind, nearly just as many bail within the first 2 weeks.
Think about that for a second.
Millions and millions of people trying to regain their fitness.
And millions and millions of people failing to do exactly that?
What’s the hang up?
Well, you sexy young padawan, I’m going to tell you. Sort of.
In my own roundabout way, I guess.
But rather than writing another boring article, hoping to instill some faux-motivation about why you should keep chasing that goal, I’m going to tell you about the things you’ll learn if you do achieve that goal.
Before I do that though, let me introduce myself:
Hi, my name is Nick.
Or, if you can’t put 2 and 2 together, I’m the shirtless dude above.
There are 2 major things to take away from this picture:
1. You’ve now seen me in my undies.
But more importantly,
2. I’m a 100 pound loser, a multi-time New Years failure, and an eventual New Years Success.
And if that is something that interests you — something you’d like to maybe give a try yourself — then keep reading and let me share a few lessons I learned while finally succeeding with my “resolutions”.
Things learned via fitness that go a bit deeper and end up transcending the “fitness” tagline.
Things that you will learn too.
At least if you chose to do so.
#1 Changing your life starts with “Why”
This is the big one.
(that’s what she said)
This is where many people starting their fitness journey tend to slip up. We know the basics: We know we want to lose weight, to look better, to feel great.
And while we know we want these things.
We don’t know why we want them.
Not really, anyways.
For an example of that, watch the first minute or two of the video below.
The harsh truth is that (sometimes) working out can really suck. There will be days where you aren’t motivated. And there will be days where you’ll want to hit that snooze button eighteen times too many.
These miserable days are the ones that count, these are the days that decide whether or not you’ll succeed long term.
And the only real way to overcome these days is to have a strong and specific goal.
A reason why.
A reason that makes these shitty workouts worth it. Because if your reason for getting out of bed isn’t stronger than the discomfort you feel — you’ll fail.
Losing weight sounds better than late night taco bell. And getting jacked sounds WAY better than sitting at home snap chatting our lives away. But, when it comes down to it, we very often choose the latter. Not because we value it more, but because we lack an understanding of exactly why we want to lose weight or look better.
The trick here is actually attaining a real reason. I don’t want to hear any of that “I just want to be healthy” or “I want to feel better” bullshit.
Why do you want to feel better?
Why do you want to be healthy?
If you can’t answer that question then take a minute, watch the video above, and get a little bit closer to a tangible goal than you are right now.
This applies to more than just fitness.
Of course getting your degree (shoutout to all my 7th year seniors out there) sounds better than spending your “study nights” as a drunken mess. And while it’s easy to say we hate pissing in our bed and sleeping on our toilet… our actions tend to speak otherwise.
Offset this by finding your why.
Maybe you want to be the first person in your family to graduate college.
Maybe you just want to impress the cute co-ed down the hall.
(Yo 0823, I’m still waiting for that call).
Find the reason you want that degree,
Find the reason you want to change your body.
Whatever your reason is:
Find that shit.
#2 When Starting:
There is No Such Thing as Bad Motivation
In the arch of any good storyline, a hero receives what is called a “call to action”. This is simply something that spurs our hero into action; setting them on their path to glory and greatness.
In fitness (and life) you’ll likely receive something similar that causes things to “click” inside your head. An event that makes you realize you need to do something.
Sometimes they can be pretty simple, like catching yourself at an unflattering angle in your mirror (or just seeing yourself in the mirror at all). And other times they can be a bit more dire, like a doctor telling you that your health is at risk.
Mine, while a bit different, went something along the lines of:
“I like you… but, only as a friend”
8 words that hit me in the face harder than a Conor McGregor sucker punch.
Luckily though, those 8 words also lit a fire under my ass and got me motivated to change what I attributed her lack of interest to: My ironically-named love handles.
It’s easy to get tripped up on why you’re motivated, thinking that it should come from noble and gracious place. But here is a fun little tidbit for you: People who change their lives almost always do so from a very dark place. They face their health because they can’t imagine leaving their kids behind. They shed the weight because they can’t imagine seeing their spouse leave them.
This shit sucks, and sometimes it can be hard to hear, but the fact of the matter is that any motivation is good motivation — as long as it gets you started.
Because if something wrong gets you headed to the right places.
Was it really that wrong?
Eventually, There is No Such Thing as “Motivation”
Initially I was motivated by a girl. Every thing I did was with her in mind. Every time I faltered, it was the thought of her that helped me right the ship. After time though, something funny happened. It became less about her and more about me.
While I may have started out trying to change things for “the wrong reasons”, this eventually allowed me to change and discover the right reasons.
I began to love the way I looked and the way I felt. I began to value my health.
And before long, working out and eating right just became another part of my day. Similar to taking a shower or brushing my teeth, things you do without any motivation.
While getting started may have began by finding yourself in hell — if you keep going long enough, you’ll carve out your own little slice of heaven.
And that, my friend, is some real shit that people don’t tell you.
#3 Patience is Key
When trying to accomplish anything in life, there are 2 things you must realize:
- Instant results are impossible.
- Consistent slow progress is infinitely faster than the alternative.
Sadly in this time of microwave dinners and 10 minute ab routines, people want things… and they want them now. Even sadder than that is that the desperation for instant satisfaction is exactly what keeps many people from ever being satisfied at all.
Look, I get it.
It can be easy to be blinded by a big goal like losing 100 pounds or graduating college.
But this can’t keep you from staying focused on the now and the overwhelming truth that all great things take time. Losing only one pound this week may not seem like much, but over the course of a year, when done consistently, you’ll find yourself down 50+ pounds.
That is nothing to sneeze at.
Or you can turn your nose up and we can have this talk again next year.
Consistency will always trump intensity.
If you’ve got a big goal in mind, stay focused on doing the little things daily that make a big impact.
We would never enroll in college, work our asses off for a month, and expect to be handed a degree. But if we focus on studying, finishing our homework, and attending class every single day? Eventually that degree may become a reality.
Trying to lose weight?
Hit your workout, nail your nutrition, drink that water.
Do these things daily and eventually you’ll realize that those small consistent efforts were not so small after all.
But hey, what do I know?
I’m just some guy who succeeded in losing 100 pounds.
Some guy who would love to see you succeed too.
Happy New Years, Team.
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